Can Soulmates Be Toxic? Abuse & Broken Relationships

We’ve been told that your soulmate is the one person who is perfect for you. But can soulmates be toxic?

Some cultures strongly believe that one person is ideal for you and who you should spend the rest of your life with if only you could find them.

The thing is, you can have more than one soulmate throughout your life.

But what if one of these soulmates turns out to be toxic?

It’s not always easy to tell if someone is toxic, which is why it’s so important to know what signs to look for.

If your soulmate is poisonous and you don’t know how to deal with them, it could ruin your relationship with them and yourself.

Here are some signs and questions that can help you figure out if your soulmate is terrible for you or not.

Toxic Misconceptions About Soulmates

That You Only Need One Person

One of the most harmful misconceptions regarding soulmates is the simple idea that there is only one person for each individual.

According to the traditional and romanticized conception of soulmates, there is one person out there for you who will grant all of your wishes and hopes and who will complete you like the final component of a puzzle.

True love (and a true soulmate) is not about finding and becoming the one but rather about coming up with innovative and adaptable methods to grow and create together.

To learn how to handle an imperfect life’s difficulties and storms and create something beautiful in that crucible.

That your relationship with your soul mate will be PERFECT

Books, films, and television programs that explore the idea of a soulmate frequently present it as though your relationship is ideal if you are supposed to spend the rest of your life with that person.

Since no relationship is flawless, this is a problem. Soulmates can be a very fascinating concept.

However, once a picture is formed in mind, it might be difficult for anyone to live up to it in reality. 

Don’t let pursuing your perfect match cause you to pass up on friendly people who could be a terrific fit for you.

That Soulmate Relationships Never Require Work

Even though you may have met your ideal partner, your relationship may not always be as excellent as it seems in Disney movies.

Even if you are soulmates, your marriage may not be ideal. Any relationship will occasionally require work, regardless of the type. Making time for dates and reserving time to be together is still crucial when you’re dating your soul mate. It takes effort to achieve.

If They Don’t Live Up To The Fantasy In Your Head, Your Partner Isn’t The One

It can be simple to create that relationship in your head, believing that the person will match every requirement on your list or that everything in your relationship will go as planned because of the cultural norms around the idea of a soulmate.

Unfortunately, doing that can set you up for failure because that isn’t how things work in real life.

Because things don’t always turn out the way they do in romantic comedies, you can ruin an excellent and loving relationship by concluding that your partner isn’t your true love. Very bad.

That interaction with your soul mate will be free from conflict

People who cling to the idea that there is only one person for them may interpret disagreement or differences of opinion in relationships as a sign that the person they selected is not the one.

They frequently believe they simply haven’t found the ideal person rather than learning how to be with someone.

Again, this could lead to you ending a perfectly healthy relationship because you mistakenly read any conflicts as a sign that the two of you shouldn’t be together.

That if you believe someone to be your soulmate, you should disregard any potential red flags

The belief that everyone has a soulmate can occasionally lead to people staying in unhealthy, abusive relationships because they believe that the person they are with is their soulmate.

When we place too much emphasis on finding our soul mate, we may become so engrossed in the romance and enchantment of finding the one that we overlook warning signs and adequately evaluate a situation. 

They are not your soul mate if the connection is unhealthy.

Even though it can be challenging to see it at the moment, the notion that there is only one person for you in the world is inherently flawed.

How Do I Know If My Soulmate Is Abusive?

According to New Age literature and modern spiritual organizations, the essence of twin flames is a path of empowerment, expansion, and growth.

However, some twin flame dynamics could resemble emotionally abusive relationships. One dynamic in codependent relationships is the propensity for one individual to lose their identity and draw it from their twin flame.

One could have a predisposition to feel pressured to put up with and continue an abusive relationship. A person who believes in the twin flame theory risks feeling compelled to stay with someone acting toxically or abusively.

Cycles of abuse may be compared to the chaser and runner, then the surrender stage. Because twin flames are thought to stimulate one another, this stage keeps happening.

This is comparable to the vicious cycle in which there are times of tension. An abusive incident, followed by reconciliation and quiet.

The following are good indicators and red flags that someone may be an abuser:

• Possessiveness
• Ferocious jealousy
• Negative mood
• Abuse of animals
• Vocal slander
• Outdated ideas about how men and women interact
• Contempt for a person’s reluctance to have sex or forced sex
• Severe authoritarian behavior
• Sabotaging a partner’s birth control method
• Accusatory conduct
• Being in charge of all finances
• Accusations of flirting or having an affair with a partner
• Regulating a partner’s behavior and attire
• Humiliating the spouse either in secret or in public
• Partner’s public humiliation or embarrassment
• Harassment of the spouse at work
• Preventing the spouse from going to work or school/college

Even if your soulmate is toxic, it doesn’t mean they aren’t your soulmate

But this will make things harder in your relationship than if they weren’t harmful.

When you spend time with a toxic person, they will take all your energy and make you feel tired.

Also, soulmates are people, so even if they weren’t bad when you first met them, they could be so in the future.

Soulmates can be toxic for you in order to teach you something

Soulmates can be bad for you, so you can learn about yourself.

If they make you feel bad, it could be because they show you something about yourself that needs to be fixed or changed.

For example, suppose they’re always putting others down and making you feel bad about yourself. In that case, that’s probably something that bothers you too.

Just because they’re your soulmate doesn’t mean you have to stay with them

Even though you’re soulmates, you don’t have to stay with them.

Even if they are toxic and you can learn something from them, that doesn’t mean you have to be with them forever.

If they make your life worse than before, it might be time to move on. At the end of the day, they’re just one of many soulmates you have yet to meet in your life.

You will meet many soulmates, so don’t settle for one who is bad for you

You will find more than one soulmate, so don’t settle for a bad one.

Even if you meet someone kind and caring, they might not be the best person for you to be with. There’s nothing wrong with that; it just means that your needs are different from theirs.

You can be with them for a while, but if you don’t make room in your life for other people and things, you might miss out on meeting some really great people.

A toxic soulmate is someone you can’t change, but you can learn from them

When someone is toxic, it’s because they’ve never been taught how to be healthy and loving.

When you’re with them, you’ll see that they don’t take good care of themselves, which can hurt other people.

By seeing this, you’ll know what not to do when you meet someone new who takes care of themselves.

The best way to do this is to think about what you brought to the relationship and what you’ve learned from it.

You’ll remember what you’ve learned when you’re ready for a new relationship.

Can a Soulmate Become Toxic?

It can be hard to know what to do if you’ve found your soulmate, but they’re misbehaving.

This person is supposed to be your best friend forever, so how could they be so bad? The answer is that there are times when soulmates aren’t meant to be together.

This can happen for many reasons. Maybe you were together in a past life and had some kind of karmic connection, but now your interests have changed, or you’ve grown apart.

Or maybe they don’t care about your values because they are different from their own. You could also be meant to be together, but only for a specific time.

Keep in mind that we meet our soulmates so we can learn from them. So they may have turned sour, so you can learn from how they act.

Soulmates are like teachers, so it’s essential to keep this in mind. We might not always agree with what they say, but if we listen carefully, we can learn from them.

We don’t meet our soulmates, so they can hurt us. All they want to do is help us learn and grow. So, if you think your soulmate has turned sour, it might be time to let them go.

Why Does a Soulmate Become Toxic?

When our soulmates are toxic and abusive, it can be hard to understand why things went wrong so quickly.

The truth is that no one reason a soulmate turns terrible exists.

But no matter if they did something terrible to us on purpose or by accident, there is always a reason why they did it.

There are many reasons why our soulmates could turn out to be toxic, but one of the most common is that they are insecure.

Some people find it hard to be themselves when they’re around other people.

They feel they must put on a show and act perfect, so you will like them more.

When this happens, they know they can take advantage of you because you won’t leave if things get nasty between you.

Another reason for your soulmate’s bad behavior is that this is how the Universe tells you that their time in your life is almost over.

The Universe is a beautiful thing that always works in mysterious ways. We don’t always know why things happen the way they do, but we can learn to accept them.

If you feel like your soulmate is becoming toxic, take a step back and look at the situation from an outsider’s point of view.

Maybe this person isn’t trying to be wrong; they’re just trying to say something. They might be upset because they think you’re not listening to them.

Maybe you’ve known this person for a long time, but now that you have a problem with them, it seems like everything has changed.

It’s essential to remember that just because someone becomes toxic in a relationship, whether it’s with your soulmate or someone else, it doesn’t mean the relationship is over.

It just means that something needs to be done about it.

Should You Leave Your Soulmate if They Become Toxic?

It’s difficult to say. When things are bad, sometimes the best thing to do is to leave.

Yes, you might need to leave if your soulmate becomes toxic and you can’t seem to get away from it no matter what you do.

But this is a different story if this person is someone you’ve known for a long time or if they’re just trying to get their point across, as was said above.

Always go with your gut when deciding whether to leave your soulmate. If something doesn’t feel right to you, it probably isn’t.

If you feel like you can’t get out of a situation and can’t see a way out, it’s best to leave your soulmate behind.

If you think your soulmate is terrible for you, it’s time to stop acting like a child and move on. You can’t make this person change for the better; they must want to.

But the answer isn’t always as simple as you might think. If you need help, you can always talk to a psychic or another gifted person.

You can even ask for help from your angels if you keep seeing angel numbers.

When Soulmates Can’t Be Together: How To Cope

People often misuse the word soulmate because they think it just means the person you love or the person you’re going to marry.

But the truth is, those who have found or met your soulmate will know this. It is an entirely different feeling and experience than just being with someone you love.

When you’ve found your soulmate, you’ve not only fallen in love with them but also feel a connection with them on an intellectual, spiritual, or emotional level. Many people find it hard to explain how they think.

But you give your whole heart to your soulmate, and your relationship with them is much stronger than with anyone else.

This person is not only your other half but also the only person who understands you and makes you feel like you’ve known them for a long time (which your soul has).

You can’t imagine life without this person, but it’s saddest when you and your soulmate aren’t meant to be together in this life. Not yet, at least. Maybe you will be in your next life. But now, you’ve done everything possible, and the relationship has turned sour.

It hurts almost too much to say goodbye to your soulmate, like a typical breakup, but a hundred times worse and more damaging to your emotions. It feels like a part of you dies when that person leaves your life.

This is what happens after breaking up with your soulmate:

You’ll fall in love again, but it won’t be the same

Yes, you will fall in love again, and you might even get married and live a happy life. But even then, it will still feel like something is missing.

You can’t explain it, but sometimes you feel like something is missing in your life, even if you’re happy or in a new relationship. It’s something about you that you can’t get to.

Like, no matter how long it’s been since you broke up with your soulmate, the feeling never goes away. Love never feels exactly the same as it used to. Whether you say it out loud or not, you know it to be true.

You still think about the memories, no matter how many years have passed

It will always be hard to forget these things. Especially if you’re going through a hard time in your life, you’ll probably think a lot about those memories.

No matter how many years pass, your thoughts will always go back to that place, to the time you spent together, and to the life, you used to have but no longer do.

Random memories come back to you; sometimes, they’ll come out of nowhere. But you’ll never forget things, whether they’re good or bad. It’s the last thing you have of them.

You change into a whole new person

When you and your soulmate break up, a part of you dies.

You’ll never feel the same again. You change a lot about yourself, mainly how you deal with dating, love, and other matters of the heart.

The loss hurt you so much that it changed who you are and how you see the world.

You might wonder why so much bad stuff happened

If you’re not with your soulmate, even though you’ve tried everything to make it work, it’s probably because things got unhealthy or toxic.

When you’re with your soulmate, you’re usually very close to them. This can lead to many fights and arguments, which can get ugly and cause damage. But as time goes on and you get farther away from all of this, you tend to see all that bad differently.

You start to wonder if some of the bad things that happened were your fault or if you could have handled them better. You might wonder how bad things really were or if you reacted too much at the time.

You still dream about them

Even if years and years pass, your soulmate will still show up in your dreams. It’s how your soul and unconscious mind go through life without your soulmate.

You might be okay with this fact in your everyday life, but deep down, it still hurts.

You will get used to your new life, but this person will always be in your heart

You will move on, enjoy life, have new experiences, and live. But in some way, they will always be a part of you. You will always carry their presence and memories in your heart and soul.

And if it’s meant to be, you and your soulmate will meet again in another life, which will be magic. But until then, make the most of your life. Love everything you have. Travel around. Try hard to do well. And become the best version of yourself that you can be.

Can Twin Flames Be Toxic?

In the end, the twin flame ideology is just a theory. Some of its stages may have things in common with unhealthy or toxic relationship traits.

People may use ideology to justify doing bad things. In healthy relationships, on the other hand, people try not to hurt or abuse each other on purpose.

Literature about the idea says that relationships between twin flames are turbulent, intense, and very emotional. This cycle of chaos and intensity might remind you of how toxic relationships work.

Some emotionally abusive relationship behaviors, like stonewalling and gaslighting, are similar to the runner and chaser stage.

Spiritual groups and forums today say that runners in this situation are usually men, and chasers are generally women. This assumption could lead to old-fashioned ideas about men and women.

The runner-chaser relationship style could also be compared to someone who avoids getting close to people. A person with this attachment style may avoid getting close emotionally in relationships, pull away, and deal with challenging emotional situations independently.

People can also get into codependent relationships, where their sense of self-worth depends on what others think. A person can love someone without conditions and ignore their bad habits and warning signs.

If someone believes in the idea, they might also feel the need to heal their twin flame’s past hurts.

But no one should feel like they must heal another person’s trauma. People still dealing with past trauma may need professional help to heal and move on.

What Are Karmic Soulmates?

A karmic relationship is full of intense passion but hard to keep up.

She says that these relationships aren’t meant to last but that the people who have them can learn from them.

A karmic partner is a soul with whom you agreed to work in this life. You may have unfinished business with this person.

Karmic partners can be romantic, platonic, or family relationships, just like soulmates. Usually, one or both of your parents are your karma partners.

How Do You Break A Soulmate Bond? Can A Twin Flame Connection Be Broken?

Breaking the connection between soulmates is a tricky thing to do.

A soulmate relationship is when two people have a deep soul connection. They grow and change as time goes on with that person. They end up being a part of our souls and us.

But not every relationship between a soulmate and a soulmate is easy. Many soulmate crisis points happen because there are lessons to be learned, and many people choose to learn the hard way.

How to disintegrate a close bond and break free from your soul mate

You should consider why you want to break up with your soul mate. You have to get rid of every doubt.

Write down why you want to break up with your partner. This will give you a moment of clarity.

Do not make haste. Once you are sure that the soul mate relationship is so broken that it is no longer worth saving, you will be able to let it go.

You’ll realize it’s time to give up. You’ll discover that this relationship has become a karmic relationship that is holding you back from growing spiritually.

Once you realize that, you’ll start to think luckily. You’ll become determined to break up with your soul mate.

You have to stop talking with him in any way. No emails, texts, or phone calls. If he tries to get in touch with you, don’t answer. Don’t yield, even if he pleads for forgiveness.

You know very well about the terrible cycle. Even though you have a strong soul bond with him, you shouldn’t go into his den. Sometimes it helps to get rid of anything that reminds you of your soul mate, like pictures, letters, etc.

These little things can store a lot of soul-mate bond energy and send it back as soon as they touch one of the soul mates.

Remember that your mind is going to become a war zone. You’ll have to fight against your most potent desires. At times like these, it’s essential to remember what’s at stake. Remember your reasons because they are more important than staying in a relationship hurting you.

Soul mates sometimes come into our lives to teach us something fundamental. Not every relationship with a soul mate is meant to last.

Accepting this hard truth can help you find peace of mind.

To end a relationship with a soul mate will take a lot of physical and mental effort and time.

You can’t expect to break up such a strong bond in one day. Patience and persistence are good traits that can help you through tricky times, but only if you let them.

Taking a strong stand can set you free, but you can’t stay vital for a long time. So, keep going even when you feel weak. There’s no easy way to break up a relationship like this.

Losing a connection with someone isn’t easy. Whether you see it as breaking a soul tie or healing in some other way, it’s essential to make sure you connect with a professional who can help you through that.

Always keep in mind that you have many choices in this life. If you feel you have a soul connection with a friend but have outgrown that friendship, don’t think you’ll ever find another friend like that.

The universe is open and will help you find new friends who are a better fit for your life right now.

A ritual for breaking soul ties:

For a simple ritual you can do without even having to talk to the person, do this:

• Sit in meditation
• You can also ask any angels or spirit guides to help you.
• Tell the person’s soul that you wish them well and all the best in life, but you just don’t want to be in a relationship with them anymore.

The person won’t be able to hear this release with their physical ears, but their soul will.

Final Thoughts

Ultimately, just because someone seems perfect doesn’t mean they can’t make mistakes or even be bad for you.

It’s important to remember that soulmates are people with problems and issues.

They might seem like a dream come true, but they have the same flaws and problems as you do.

If your soulmate is not suitable for you, it’s time to move on.

If not, it’s time to at least look at the situation from an outsider’s point of view to see if it can be fixed.